On Alcohol and Substances
We’ve all imbibed at some point. Consciousness altering substances like drugs and alcohol are part of the human experience and should be treated as normal, but with caution. Especially when you’re mixing these with sex, you need to exercise restraint and care for yourself and your partners.
I don’t take drugs during my sessions. This is because of a few factors:
The one I'm offered most frequently is cocaine, which I don’t care for at all;
Drugs can make people unpredictable and often this is far less safe for both of us;
I obviously would prefer that while I'm at work, I'm in my right mind in order to give the best possible experience and to stay safe;
There is a high incidence of recreational drugs being cut with things like fentanyl (if you’re taking anything, check with your local harm reduction organisation for testing kits and current alerts);
I’d prefer not to mix things from an unknown source with any prescription drugs I'm already taking;
I find that they can often ruin sex;
They blur the lines of consent, which makes me uncomfortable.
Alcohol is the exception, and it is a drug, but I still insist on restriction. Interesting that it is an exception when most of the above points could be applied to it too - people are more unpredictable on it, it can interact with prescription drugs, it can put a dampener on sexual activities, you should not take it when you need to be clear headed at work, and it can absolutely make consent murky. I suppose the simple reason why I make an exception for alcohol is that I am familiar with my limits and with how much of each type is acceptable to me. This is why I don’t judge those who take drugs during bookings (or at all), but I prefer they don’t do it with me - and I will refuse clients who are drunk.
When your every day is full of people who are treating themselves, you end up treating yourself too; and far too often. I restrict myself to two drinks per dinner date, and only one if it’s a shorter booking. I’ll decline entirely if I have a subsequent booking or I’ve had a few too many days with a drink or two recently. Australian doctors recommend that a healthy adult have no more than ten standard drinks per week. An escort can easily manage that with a handful of dates and one or two social occasions in their personal life; we need to keep an eye on how much we consume.
It’s quite troubling that our culture here in Australia expects that you will drink at every single occasion, and that so many social events revolve around alcohol entirely. It closes off whole areas of society to those who don’t drink, in much the same way that you used to feel excluded if you didn’t take smoke breaks during the day with your colleagues. I spent eight months off alcohol at one point due to some interactions with a medication I was on at the time; people never stopped asking me why I wasn’t drinking. What if I was pregnant but didn’t yet want to announce? What if I was trying to manage an addiction? What if I didn’t wish to share that I was on medication? Why do we need to give a reason at all that we don’t want to consume something that will change the way we perceive the world and changes our behaviour? This is something experienced by those who don’t elect to drink every single time they’re at a social occasion with new friends.
Do you like to bring a bottle of wine when you book an escort? Perhaps, instead of asking what kind of alcohol they like, maybe you could suggest something different - Seedlip (alcohol free spirits) is a favourite of mine, and I am a huge fan of interesting and exotic tea blends. Let’s move away from alcohol every single time, and towards alcohol as an option, with no pressure to consume it.
